PODCAST TRANSCRIPT | EPISODE 258: It’s Time to Elevate Home and Family, Part 1
LIFE TO THE FULL w/ Nancy Campbell
EPISODE 258: It’s Time to Elevate Home and Family, Part 1
"If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?" My husband, Colin, joins me today as we discuss bringing family life back to its high status. Marriage, home, and family are the first institutions God ordained, before church and before government. They are still the foundation of society.
Announcer: Welcome to the podcast, Life to The Full, with Nancy Campbell, founder and publisher of Above Rubies.
Nancy Campbell: Hello, everyone! I’m saying “everyone” because I don’t know who is listening. I hope everyone is listening! And to all you wonderful mothers all over the world, because many mothers are listening in many countries of the world.
Today I’m going to go on to a new series. I have been speaking for quite a few sessions about etiquette, and how we, as mothers, are the transmitters of God’s truth and His ways, and even godly traditions, to the next generations. I’m sure you found those a blessing. If you haven’t listened to them, I would encourage you to do so.
There are still lots of things that I could talk to you about etiquette. Lots of little things, even little things that have common sense, like, if you break something that belongs to somebody else, what do you do? Of course, you replace it. If you borrow something, well, you make sure that you give it back. Little things like that.
But I do have an etiquette series, seven posters of different aspects of etiquette. You can pick a lot of those up there. They’re wonderful for your children. They’re on a paper-colored paper, illustrated. You can laminate them to make them last longer, or use them as placemats, or you can pin them up on the wall in different places so your children can read them. They can begin to get these good things into their lifestyle.
But we’re going to move on today. I want to talk about elevating the home and the family to where God wants it to be. I believe that the family has been brought down to an inferior place. It’s not where God wants it to be. It’s time that we brought it back. I have asked my lovely husband to come and join me today and talk about this great subject.
Hi, Darling, do you want to say hi?
Colin: Yes, yes, this is very rare that I get an opportunity to speak on these podcasts. My darling wife has encouraged me to speak today. I think the subject of elevating the home is such an amazing subject because it’s so sad that so many, many families and homes are constantly, daily, being destroyed. This is the very foundation of our country, our society.
It’s very much in both my wife and I, our hearts. We feel it very, very deeply that God has put it upon us. There’s something there, an anointing of the Spirit, I guess, to speak about this, and to let everyone know the cry of God’s heart relating to the importance of the family.
Nancy: Amen! So, we’re going to talk about that soon. Just one or two things before we get onto the subject. I want to let you know that a new Above Rubies is getting on the way. I have prepared it, and it is now with the design artist. This is Above Rubies #101. I know it’s going to be a great blessing. There are so many wonderful testimonies and articles in this magazine. I know it’s going to be a great blessing, so once it is designed, then it will go to the printers. It’s coming up, and you will be able to look forward to that.
Another thing is that currently, Colin and I are part of something that is so powerful. It is worldwide. I hope you are part of it too. If you aren’t, you can pick up on it. It is called the www.Isaiah62Fast.com. That’s where you can go and look at it on the Internet. I’ll say it again. www.Isaiah62Fast.com.
Why is it called the Isaiah 62? Because it comes from that Scripture in Isaiah 62:6-7: “I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace, day nor night. Ye that make mention of the Lord,” that literally means those of you who are the Lord’s remembrancers, those who remind Him daily of His promises, “keep not silence, And give him no rest, till He establish, and He make Jerusalem a praise in the earth.”
God has done this miraculously and orchestrated it. The spear header is Mike Bickle. There are currently now five million people across the world who have committed to pray and fast, either full-time, or partially for Israel for three weeks. We’re now in the second week. But it’s not too late to become involved. If you would like to be part of something that is a world-wide thing, it’s something that God is putting on hearts everywhere, to be committed for specifically.
We should be praying for Israel every day, of course, but specifically, a three-week prayer and fasting world-wide for Israel. I do believe that this has been orchestrated by God. You can go onto that website, and you can get many Scriptures to help you in praying. Colin and I are doing that each day. We love our set-aside time as we pray together and read these Scriptures, these promises that God has for Israel.
Many of them have been fulfilled, but so many are yet to be fulfilled. We can pray them into fulfillment. We can remind God of His promises. He said that He wants us to be His remembrancers as we are on the wall, night and day, praying for His land and His people.
I believe, as Christians, we do have a responsibility to pray for Israel. We cannot forget Israel. It’s through God’s people that we have our living Word, this Holy Bible. It is through His people that our Messiah, the Lord Jesus Christ, our Savior, came forth.
I remember God has many, many names. Many names by which we understand more and more of His character. But there is one name. I was reading it again the other day, in the Word of God. There is one name that God says: “This is My Name forever.” Well, all God’s names are forever, but there’s only this particular one that He specifically says: “This is My Name forever!”
Do you know what it is? Have you read it? It’s found in Exodus 3:15. It’s when God came to Moses at the burning bush. He told him and gave him that mission to go back into Egypt to deliver his people: “And God said moreover unto Moses, Thus shalt thou say unto the children of Israel, The LORD God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, hath sent me unto you: this is My Name forever, and this is My memorial unto all generations.”
We gentiles, who have been brought in, we cannot forget, this is God’s Name forever, “The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.” And we’d better not forget it! We’d better not forget that God, who we love, and Who we serve, and Who we worship, He is the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
One more thing, before we get started.
Colin: Or before you get . . .
Nancy: Yes, say something, Darling!
Colin: My wife and I have a real passion for Israel. We have very good friends over there. We’d love to go there more often than we do. Nevertheless, it’s a very prophetical nation. All these promises that we have to remind the Lord of, relating to His promises for Israel, and what’s going to be happening there. We know that Jesus is coming back, not just to the earth, to be in New York, or London, or Rome, or some other place like that. He’s coming back to Jerusalem. He’s bringing His people back from all over the world.
The enemy is contesting it incredibly. Because he's contesting it, they don’t know why, but they hate Israel. They loathe it. They want to get rid of it. This battle is going on, even to this very day. Missiles are still falling in many places in Israel. We do need to be praying for it.
Nancy: Yes! Amen! There is one specific thing.
Colin: Oh, one other thing, too. That is that (I don’t know whether you mentioned it), but probably right now, we have five million-plus people from all over the world that are praying for Israel during this special three weeks.
Nancy: Yes. Isn’t it wonderful to be part of something so great?
Colin: God’s going to do something great when you get over five million people fasting and praying. He’s going to break forth in some powerful way as far as Israel is concerned. Maybe as we pray for Israel too, it’s not a “maybe,” it will happen that God will bless us too, because He promised He will bless those that pray for Israel and bless Israel.
Nancy: Yes, something very specific, and I’d like to mention it, because out on the West Bank, which people often think is Palestinian territory, which is not correct. It is the very heartland of Israel. It is where the children of Israel first went into the Land when they crossed that river Jordan from the wilderness and moved into the Promised Land, the land of milk and honey.
But it is a contested territory. Sadly, our own nation, and many other nations, are trying to make Israel a two-state nation, which is totally against God’s plan and His Word, because He gave the land to His people for an everlasting possession.
But right now, there are 15 illegal Arab structures being built every day in Judea and Samaria. That’s the West Bank, the heartland of Israel. That’s 105 per week, and 450 per month, and more than 5,000 every single year! At this moment, there are more than 100,000 illegal Arab houses sitting in Area C, mostly on Israeli state land, and taking over Israel’s biblical heartland. This illegal, secret take-over of the heartland is well-funded and coordinated, and 100% dedicated to creating a terrorist-controlled Palestinian state. We need to pray against that.
But Ha Yovel, which is a wonderful organization, who are out there in the West Bank—
helping the farmers of Israel to possess the land,
helping them as they plant their vineyards,
and as they harvest their vineyards—
They have an exciting mission that they are putting into operation. I want to share this. If you have any sons or daughters, 18-35, can you tell them about this? Because to me, I think it is so amazing. I wish I was a young person, and I could go and be part of this.
But they are calling for young men and women who have a heart for Israel, to be part of biblical prophecy, fulfilling God’s promises to possess the land, and specifically the heartland of Israel. Now, the heartland of Israel is actually just barren hills. It is so barren. It’s nothing. And yet, God is doing miracles out there. When they plant vineyards on that barren land, they grow so prolifically. They grow the most glorious bunches of grapes you could ever see.
I have actually been out there, stood on literal stones, picking huge bunches of grapes off these vines. You wonder how it could happen. It’s actually miraculous. It is only through the prophetic Word of God.
But they have a vision to plant 10,000 trees. As they plant those trees, they are possessing the land for Israel which God has told them to do. He has said that when His people come back to the land that it will bring forth fruit for His people. The word of prophecy comes forth in Ezekiel 36. You can read it. To prophesy to the mountains, and the valleys, and the waste places, and to plant, and to grow. And that they’ll bring forth fruit.
They need, it’s going to be a huge task, 10,000 trees. So, from June 13 to July 25, six weeks, they’re calling for young men and women to come, plant these trees! It’s so exciting! I wish I could go. But if you’ve got young men, young women, 18 or over, just inspire them. They can go to HaYovel.com. You’ll see there, and you can begin to sign up for doing something that would be part of biblical prophecy and so exciting! You’d have to do it right now, because in a few days, they will have to close the people who want to sign up. So, get on with that! Amen!
Just wanted to share that before we get onto our subject of ELEVATING THE HOME AND FAMILY. Oh, precious ladies, mothers, fathers, we are in a state today of this overwhelming and rampant divorce rate. Marriage is failing. Families weakening, families fragmenting. We’re living in a society of abortion, where same-sex marriage and homosexuality are now the law of our land.
Now we have transgenderism where they are seeking to turn us away from who God created us to be—male and female. Even our young people, and even children are being encouraged to change into the opposite sex and their bodies are being mutilated! Where have and how have we got to this state?
I believe the root of this is the turning away from the home, when mothers began to vacate the home and mothering and enter into a whole lifestyle where God did not intend for them. It’s normal today. Every day, mothers are leaving their children in daycares and going out into their careers and to the work field. It’s not where they’re meant to be.
It’s time we turned the tide back! Mothers are meant to be in the home. The home is the most powerful place on earth. It’s time we got back to it because the only way we can bring this nation back is for mothers to come back to the home.
Fathers who’ve been abdicating their anointing as fathers and taking that leadership in the home to lead their families to God. Oh, as feminism has come in, men have become weakened. It is totally wrong! Men need to rise into their anointing of protecting and providing and leading their homes.
Mothers need to come back to this greatest career of all, of raising godly children in the home. Because when mothers get out of the home, the enemy, the devil, has his chance to get his claws on the minds and hearts of our children. That’s what he’s been doing. We now have colleges all across this land, filled with liberal young people who have been brainwashed and propagandized with lies from the enemy! They believe these lies. It’s time we did something.
Colin: Yes, it is. It’s true, the most vacated, I think, place in our society today is the home. When mothers are leaving the home in droves because of pressures of inflation, and all that which we are all facing at this time, is just another excuse to have a two-income situation. Mothers are leaving their homes.
MOTHERHOOD AND HOME ARE SYNONYMOUS TERMS
It’s tragic because motherhood and homes are almost synonymous terms. What’s a home if there’s no mother in it? The children, I do believe this, that the little ones need to have their mothers there with them in those early years, especially in the early years, where they can be developed and whatever their needs are, as they grow up, they’ve got a mother there. I don’t think a daycare worker can do what a mother can do. I really believe that.
Nancy: No way! It is impossible!
Colin: Yes, they need their mother’s protection. It’s motherhood that has affection. I think if somebody else was trying to act like a mother, but they’re not, that vibe doesn’t really resonate with the child. They need mother’s eyes, affectionate eyes; mother’s hands, affectionate hands and mother’s affectionate voice to soothe that child and to encourage that child in that time.
I think that children are missing something very, very important in their lives and the foundation of their character. It will have a serious effect upon them if they are not mothered by their mothers. There will be some nervous reactions. There will be something that will be missing in their lives—that sense of security and love and affection of the mother is so important in the child’s development.
Nancy: Yes, and I do believe the fact that children who’ve been left and are left every day in daycare and so on, it does affect the children’s behavior. Children are born to have their mother. It’s how God designed it. In fact, the mother needs those children, and the children need their mother. Because they don’t have their mother, psychologically, there is something missing. They miss something in their lives that is so powerful.
Even when they come home, they sometimes take that out subconsciously on their mother, because they’ve been missing her, and they don’t quite know how to cope with that. It affects their behavior. You find that it’s much easier to be with a child who is constantly in the mother’s care. There’s security there. They’re so much easier to handle. You see such difficult behavior in so many young children today. Really, it’s because they have missed their mothers! It’s not what is meant to be.
Colin: I don’t really believe that the state school system has advantaged our society at all, actually, because sending your children off to school for, what, six or eight hours a day, is not being at home where their mothers are. Thank God for homeschooling families. I think it’s been a comeback. It’s a pioneering thing but it’s been a comeback for those that are doing it, to bring about the type of families that God wants.
MOTHER IS THE ANCHOR OF THE HOME AND SOCIETY
This is such an important subject that we’re dealing with today. But it’s so sad. A home without a mother in it is an empty shell, actually. There’s something very, very missing in that home when mother is not there. When children come home, even from school, and their mother hasn’t quite made it, or she hasn’t been able to get there in time, and all that kind of thing, it’s so sad, because then they’re rudderless. They have no anchor. The mother is the anchor of the home. In that sense, she becomes an anchor of society.
Nancy: Yes, and we go back to the very beginning, and we see here in Genesis, right at the beginning when God created the male and female, and then we go to chapter two, and God specifically talks about how He created the man first. The man, the male was created first.
Genesis 2:7: “And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.”
The woman, the female, was not yet created. We don’t even read any inclination of anything about her until way down in verse 18. But the next verse after God created the man, in verse 8, it says: “And the LORD God,” what did He do next? Before He created the woman, He did something before He created her. Do you know what He did?
“And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there He put the man whom He had formed.” So, we see that the next thing God did, before He created the woman, was to create the home. The home, a place where the man and the woman would live and bring forth a family, and where they would raise that family. Somehow, the male, Adam, was able to survive without the home, although we don’t know what happened.
I often think, “Well, I’m sure God didn’t just leave Adam staring into space. I’m sure He must have taken him with Him, to show him, “Adam, this is what we do. I am preparing.” He showed Adam how it is the responsibility of the man to prepare that home for his wife. So, then we move on down the chapter. We read of how God put Adam to sleep, and then He brought forth a woman.
When He brought forth that woman and she woke up to life, where was she? She was in her home. God had the home ready for her, because this is where He wanted her to be. This is her sanctuary. This is the place where she will raise and mold her children. This is where she prepares children who will come forth to be the nation.
Our nation is only what the mothers are. We, as mothers, determine the destiny of the nation, as we are at home raising children, raising godly children. If we are not there, we are leaving them to someone else to raise! What are they putting into their minds? How are they raising them? We see now, today, we have a generation of children who are indoctrinated with lies and delusions and deceptions of the enemy.
Colin: Yes, it’s tragic, really, what is happening. But we take courage, because we believe that this is the truth that we’re sharing about here. It was a wonderful thing for Adam, knowing that his wife was in that home, part of that home. Home was a big thing. When she probably was out there in the garden somewhere, that gave the enemy a chance to get in and destroy the entire human race in many respects when he tempted her to fall, and she fell.
But the home is the place of security. The home is the place where God planted that lady to be the first mother. I think that America was its strongest when mothers were in their homes. This is a big thing for this nation, because we have fallen. Our homes, we’ve got beautiful homes to look at physically. But unfortunately, they’re like refrigerators. They’re dead, because there’s no loving wife, or no loving mother in those homes for many, many, many hours of every day.
That has to be remedied. I do believe this is part of the restoration that God wants to bring about, the turning of the hearts of the fathers to the children, the hearts of the children to the wisdom of the just, to the parents (Malachi 4:4-6 and Luke 1:16, 17). That kind of wisdom that comes from God; God wants much of all this to be shared in a growing family in the home.
I think it’s a primary responsibility of parents to be the major teachers, not the worldly-minded, highly skilled teachers that have been put through teacher’s training colleges, and all the rest of it, filled with all their false doctrines and so on. Giving children stuff that they should never be given, which would not help in even getting a good job, actually.
It’s just the basic things that are necessary, but they can also be taught at home. But there are things that are taught at home that are so incredible. I think we should see home as the place of the molding, the fashioning, the creating, and the bonding. The blessing is all done in the home. The anchor of that home is the mother.
Nancy: Yes. Amen! As you were saying that (I always love alliteration) and I noticed you were using “B.” I think, yes, as we are in the home, we are BUILDING the home. We are BLENDING our home as the children come along and we blend together. We are BONDING. Actually, one of the meanings of mother is the “bond of the home.” She is the bonder of the home.
Colin: Yes, yes, yes.
Nancy: And in doing that, we’re going to make it a BLESSING, and we’re going to make it BEAUTIFUL. Amen?
Colin: It’s impossible, I think, to be a mother and not have a home. I think she’s so connected to the home, not the workplace, not some big flashy building in the middle of the city somewhere. That’s not her home. That’s not where she’ll be satisfied. God has innately put into mothers, homemaking.
I just watched two little girls who were here at our home just yesterday when I came in. Two little girls, just sitting downstairs with their little cups, having a little tea party together while everybody else, all the other young people were out on the volleyball court. These two little girls were doing their little mothering time, the thing that they were created to be. It’s innately put into the female.
Nancy: Yes, yes. So true. Maybe there are some of you precious ladies who are listening, and you think, “That’s all very well, but we simply cannot survive without my going out and getting a job.” I know society has pushed us into this scenario, but I do believe, I do believe that God is so faithful. If we will believe and trust Him, He will enable us.
We do live in an era of history that is really quite affluent. There have been so many times in history when families have not lived in such an affluent society. They have lived in, often, very, very poor states, and yet, back then, they did not limit their families. They had big families. Somehow, God enabled them, and provided for them.
Even when we raised our children, I mean, really, we couldn’t afford to do it with my not being out in the workforce. But we did! Because God is faithful. We lived from hand to mouth, but we always survived. There are times when, oh, things are great! But there are times when things are not great. But we still survived, and we don’t have to have everything we think we have to have. It’s amazing what we can do without.
God has promised if we trust Him to provide our food and our clothing, and He does! I can remember saying as we were raising our children, “Look, oh! I would rather live in a tent then leave these children!” Somehow, I just could not leave them because that was in me.
But today, although this is within a mother, and even home is within a mother, they have had so much education that’s kind of educated it out of them. Their brains have been educated, oh, that they must get out and they must get a job and they must fulfill their great career. It’s all a lot of lies, because no mother will ever take her secular career with her into glory. No, it’s all going to be left behind. It’s all vanity.
The only thing that we, as mothers, will ever take into the eternal realm is our redeemed soul, and the redeemed souls of our children—the effect that we have, not only on our children now, but on the coming generations, what will they be like? Will they be righteous, God-fearing generations, or will they have turned away from God? And, of course, ultimately for eternity.
Colin: We were in eastern Europe some years ago, sharing on the subject of the importance of home and motherhood and so on. It was a large congregation that we were sharing with, with fathers and mothers. But the mothers in that audience, who had been in eastern Europe, had been under communism for many, many years. They were so conditioned by the communist ideology that mothers were forced, actually forced out of their homes to go to work. There was no difference between motherhood and fatherhood as far as income was concerned. All the children were to be raised by the government.
Now these mothers, now that they had been freed from communism, were still finding it very different in their brains, for their brains to be re-educated back to the importance of family and home. There was still that one-or-two child mentality. “We need to go to work.” It’s obvious that they seemed to love their work and being out of the home. They had been so conditioned.
This is where this modern society, what we’re being pushed to with the one-world government, and all the rest of it. Christians are the same mold that they had been pushed into and brainwashed. We cannot let that happen. I remember once, when we were traveling down through Kentucky, we went to see Abraham Lincoln’s birthplace where he was raised. It was just one big room, a one-room house.
Nancy: Yes, just a dirt floor.
Colin: And an open fireplace. There wasn’t even a real woodstove or anything like that. Just an open fireplace, and a dirt floor, yes. If they had to get something for the house, or anything, they had to saddle up their horses and probably ride horseback for miles.
Nancy: Yes! And out of that little shack came a great president of the nation.
Colin: One of the greatest presidents, yes.
Nancy: But our time is up, Darling, so we’ll have to do another one. Just as we close, I think why we are in this situation we are today with the mindset—it’s all just brainwashing in our schools and in our colleges. They have been brainwashed, and it’s all masterminded by the enemy, who absolutely hates God’s plan and His heart for home, for family. But we’ll talk more in the next session. Let’s pray.
Would you like to pray, Darling?
Colin:
“Lord, we thank You, Oh God, that You have designed motherhood and fatherhood. Different roles, but still even as fathers, they are to be those who see the importance of the home, and their wives being able to be homemakers and mothers. The privilege and the honor that men have to be able to come back from being the main provider for the home, to come home at night and to find that wonderful home and smell that beautiful meal that’s been cooked for them, and to enjoy the beauty of it all, and to feel the presence that’s in that home.
We pray that Oh, God, You will restore this truth because this vacating of the home, meaning that also there’s going to be less children and all that, we pray in Jesus’ Name that, Lord, You will restore us back to where You want us to be. In Jesus’s Name, amen.”
Nancy: Amen!
Blessings from Nancy Campbell
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